Friday, November 11, 2011
I Am Not A Good Father. This Is A Good Father
I am a father. I take that rather seriously. News media refer to the persons simply responsible for impregnating women as "fathers." I don't.
The word father does not allow for any hyphenations or qualifiers to me. You either are, or you aren't a father. Pass/fail. If I am proud of anything in this life, it's that I'm told by people I respect that I pass as a father. It's enough praise, but it's not enough accomplishment to suit me. I keep trying.
I'll break my own rule now, and use an adjective to describe a father. The man in the video, little Ivor's father, Jorge Cardile, is a good father.
He is not a good father because he succeeded in his effort. If it had failed miserably, and had no effect whatsoever, it wouldn't have affected my opinion of him one whit -- quite the opposite -- for a prayer is not the pull of a lever expecting a gumball.